Here is a 12 months coundown provided by theknot.com:
12+ months before
Envision your wedding
and draw up a budget.
Assemble your "planning
team." Consider hiring a wedding consultant.
Pick a wedding date
and time. Select several options, then check with
your venues, officiant, and important guests before
finalizing.
Start planning the
guest list.
Look for and book ceremony
and reception sites.
Ask friends and relatives
to be in the wedding party.
Optional: Have an engagement
party. You may want to register beforehand for gifts.
8-10 months before
Bride: Think about,
shop for, and order your gown.
Envision reception
food.
Decide what type of
entertainment you want. A pianist for the cocktail
hour, strolling violinists, a DJ, or band?
Think about your floral
decor.
Research and book your
wedding professionals. Interview vendors: photographer,
videographer, reception band or DJ, florist.
Research a wedding
insurance policy to protect your deposits.
Research and reserve
accommodations for out-of-town guests.
Register for gifts.
Contact rental companies
if you need to rent anything for ceremony/reception,
such as chairs, tables, and tent.
6-8 months before
Book ceremony musicians.
Order bridesmaid dresses.
Start planning honeymoon.
Send save-the-date
cards. This is a particularly good idea if you're
marrying during a tourist or holiday season or having
a destination wedding.
4-6 months before
Attend prewedding
counseling, if required.
Shop for and order invitations and
wedding rings.
Shop for formalwear.
Renew or get passports, if necessary.
Envision your wedding cake and research,
interview, and book a cake designer.
3 months before
Order wedding cake.
Hire a calligrapher, if you want your
invitations professionally addressed.
Attend your shower. (It may be earlier,
depending on when hosts decide to have it.)
Groom: Rent the men's formalwear.
Hire wedding-day transport: limousines,
other cars. Look into transportation sooner if you're
considering renting streetcars or
over-the-top travel.
2 months before
Mail your invitations.
Write your vows.
Purchase gifts for
parents, attendants, and each other.
Book your stylist and
try out big-day hairstyles.
Book a makeup artist
and go for a trial run.
1 month before
Apply for a marriage
license. Check with the local bureau in the town
where you'll wed.
Bride: Have final gown
fitting. Bring your maid of honor along to learn
how to bustle your dress. Have the dress pressed
and bring it home.
Call all bridesmaids.
Make sure they have their gowns ready for the wedding.
Make last-minute adjustments
with vendors.
Create a wedding program
to hand out to guests.
Order and plan in-room
welcome baskets for out-of-town guests.
2 weeks before
Review final RSVP
list and call any guests who have not yet sent a
response.
Deliver must-have shot
lists to photographer and videographer. Include
who should be in formal portraits and determine
when portraits will be taken.
Deliver final song
list to your DJ or bandleader. Include special song
requests and songs you don't want played.
Bride: Get your last
prewedding haircut and color.
1 week before
Give reception site/caterer
final guest head count. Include vendors, such as
the photographer or band members, who will expect
a meal. Ask how many extra plates the caterer will
prepare.
Supply location manager
with a list of vendor requests such as a table for
DJ or setup space needed by florist.
Plan reception seating
chart.
Print place and table
cards, or finalize list with the calligrapher you
have hired to do so.
Call all wedding vendors
and confirm arrangements.
Give ceremony and reception
site managers a schedule of vendor delivery and
setup times, plus contact numbers.
Groom: Get your hair
trimmed.
Attend bachelor/ette
parties.
2-3 days before
Bride: If you need
to, have your gown pressed or steamed.
Groom: Go for final
fitting and pick up your formalwear.
Groom: Ask the best
man to make sure all groomsmen attend fittings and
pick up their outfits.
Determine wedding-party
positions during ceremony and the order of the party
in the processional and recessional.
Hand off place cards,
table cards, menus, disposable cameras, favors,
and any other items for setting the tables to the
caterer and/or reception site manager.
Reconfirm final details
with all vendors. Discuss any necessary last-minute
substitutions.
Call the limousine-
or car-rental company for pickup times and locations.
Arrange for guests
without cars to be picked up from the airport or
train station. Ask friends, attendants, or relatives
to help.
Deliver welcome baskets
to the hotel concierge; make sure to include names
and delivery instructions.
Day before
Provide all wedding
professionals with an emergency phone number to
call on the day of the wedding.
Write checks and/or
talk to wedding hosts (usually your parents, if
not you) about any final balances to be paid at
the end of the reception.
Night before
Rehearse ceremony.
Meet with wedding party, ceremony readers, immediate
family, and your officiant at the ceremony site
to rehearse and iron out details.
Bring unity candle,
aisle runner, yarmulkes, or other ceremony accessories
to the site.
Give your marriage
license to your officiant.
Attend rehearsal dinner.
Present attendants
with gifts at the rehearsal dinner. You'll want
to do this especially if the gifts are accessories
to be worn during the wedding.
Day of
Present parents and
each other with gifts.
Give wedding bands
to the best man and the maid of honor to hold during
the ceremony.
Give best man the officiant's
fee envelope, to be handed off after the ceremony.
Introduce your reception
site manager to your consultant or maid of honor
for questions or problems during the reception.
Assign a family member
or attendant to be the photographer's contact so
he knows who is who.
Post-wedding
Prearrange for someone
to return any rentals.
Preplan for attendants
to take the bride's gown for cleaning and return
the groom's tux to the rental shop.
Write and send thank-you
notes to gift-bearing guests and vendors who were
especially helpful.